..is to not try. It does not matter if I am successful or unsuccessful in any attempt to navigate some course of action. Not being successful does not mean I have failed or that I am a failure, it simply means, I was not successful at that particular time.
The important thing for me to remember is to not let being unsuccessful for a moment lead to true failure... loss of hope, loss of emotional feelings or a diminished capacity to care. These things are what lead to real failure... giving up and no longer trying.
I know despair and depression are the weapons my mind uses to immobilize me and keep me from trying again. Learning to take the next step, just to keep moving is the only way to succeed. Pausing only long enough to gather my bearings and renew my strength. As long as I put one foot in front of the other I can consider myself successful.